The Groom's Role in Wedding Planning

Does it seem like your groom really isn’t that into planning your wedding?

Most grooms just want their brides to be happy. I hear it all the time, the grooms typical response is, “whatever you want,” when his bride to be asks him about the wedding planning process. “Just tell me what to wear and what time I have to show up,” he continues you.

As a wedding planner and former bride, I think it’s ok and it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care!

Grooms didn’t grow up dreaming about their wedding, or playing dress up as a bride. A groom just wants to get married, and most of the time, the small details don’t really matter to him. I’ve heard many grooms say that they trust what their bride will choose.

Before you get too involved in planning the wedding, have a conversation with your groom to find out what parts of the wedding your groom wants to be involved in. Find out what parts of important to him - what he wears, what food you are serving, choosing the first dance song, or maybe the wedding dessert. Our planning guide xx goes into more detail with involving or not involving the groom. A very important part of the wedding to discuss with the groom is the budget. Some other things the two of you can talk about together are the wedding date and other details that the groom may have a say in. If you have one conversation right away, you can cross off a lot on your list while still involving the groom - there’s no need to give him a daily update of the wedding plans!

If your groom just wants you to be happy, then make sure you both understand and communicate this.

If you are more of the planner, your groom may trust you with the decisions of the day. I’ve also had a few grooms plan the whole wedding, without me talking to the bride until the day of! If both of you aren’t big planners, consider a super simple wedding or finding an all-inclusive wedding venue.

Brides, if you need help from your groom then ask for it!

Grooms, if you want to find out more about the planning process, ask!

If it gets too stressful, it may be because you aren’t planning YOUR wedding. There may be way too many people giving advise, the planning make be way to stressful or maybe way too big. If weeks go by and the stress is getting worse, not better, book a call with me. I can help walk you through some ideas before you decide to cancel. (I’ve got a personal story about this one, so I get it.)

Don’t talk bad about your bride and groom to family and friends, instead see if family can friends can lend a helping hand. If your family and friends are the ones causing the stress, then grooms, you may have to have that talk with your mother to keep her options for your sisters wedding or remind your mom that it’s your bride’s day.

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Why you should have a small wedding in Pismo Beach

By Natalie Jones • February 27, 2025

Here’s why you should have a small wedding in Pismo Beach Small weddings are the way to go these days! We aren’t just saying that because small weddings have been our thing since we started our business back in 2015. A small wedding can have the same parts of a large wedding - unforgettable moments, celebration with friends and family and the start of the rest of your life together. But, small wedding have a few more benefits like - less stress, less more, and more of the two of you and what you want for your wedding! We love the scenery of the Central Coast for small weddings. There are million dollar views - from your toes in the sand at one of the beach locations, to overlooking the ocean, to shaded eucalyptus trees, and jagged cliff sides. Small weddings are our favorite because the couple is free to focus on the most important things, like having their day, their way, spending the day with the people who truly matter, and having an amazing day packed with lasting memories. What Is Driving the Trend Toward Smaller Weddings? Several factors are behind the increasing trend of smaller weddings. Modern couples are redefining what it means to celebrate love, and in most cases, they focus on quality over quantity. Small weddings have become for popular and couples embrace fewer guests and find the beauty of intimate gatherings. Changing societal norms and the desire for unique, personalized experiences also make smaller weddings an attractive option. How Do Small Weddings Create More Meaningful Connections? Small weddings foster more meaningful connections by allowing couples to spend quality time with each guest, creating an intimate and personal atmosphere. With fewer attendees, conversations feel more genuine, and guests feel truly valued and appreciated. Some couples will have a few day long celebration for their wedding - starting a few days before the wedding with wine tasting or seeing the sites of the Central Coast, then relax on the beach the next day. After some fun in the sun, it's wedding day. The day will end with a group dinner or casual private reception. Then, the guests will leave and the couple has a few more days to celebrate their honeymoon in Pismo Beach or other beach location. This setting also encourages deeper interactions, making it easier to share special moments, heartfelt toasts, and personal stories. Without the hustle and chaos of a large event, couples and their loved ones can be fully present, strengthening bonds and making the celebration even more memorable. How Does a Smaller Guest List Reduce Wedding Stress? Planning a wedding can be quite challenging. It is easier for couples to plan their weddings with smaller guest lists, as this dramatically lowers their prospects of worrying. Incorporating fewer guests into a wedding means that there are fewer logistical elements to take care of, such as catering, seating arrangements, accommodations, and more people to please. This way, couples can spend more time and energy making their special day more unique instead of fretting over accommodating numerous people. A more personal gathering helps create a homely and calming vibe, giving the couple a chance to make the most of each interaction with their guests. Most importantly, a smaller guest number means that there would be fewer changes needed at the last minute, which translates to lower expenditure and costs. Hence, all attendees, coupled with the couple, can fully enjoy themselves without feeling the pressure of the wedding arrangements. What Are the Financial Benefits of Hosting a Small Wedding? Hosting a small wedding can be a cost-effective choice, offering couples the chance to allocate their budget more intentionally. With fewer guests, expenses for catering, venue size, and decor are reduced, freeing up funds for other priorities such as an unforgettable honeymoon or investing in a dream home. This financial flexibility allows couples to create a celebration that reflects their values and vision without overspending. Celebrate your love story with us! Small weddings are more than just a trend—they represent a shift in how couples approach one of the most important days of their lives. By focusing on intimacy, meaningful connections, and thoughtful planning, small weddings offer a unique and heartfelt way to celebrate love. For couples looking to create a stunning and intimate wedding experience, Coastal California Weddings is your simple and stress-free way to plan your wedding. We provide expert guidance and inspiration.

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